… if any man have a quarrel against any, even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye. Colossians 3:13.

I tried settling a misunderstanding between two friends sometime ago but got what I can call a plain shocker. One of the ladies said, “Forget it, I won’t forgive her one bit, I prefer to be dead than to forgive her” Do you know one of the deadliest bondage to put oneself in? It is living with hatred and bitterness against someone/people. It is worst than being inside a physical prison.

According to Dr.Steven Standiford, chief of surgery at the Cancer Treatment Centers of America, “refusing to forgive makes people sick and keeps them that way. Also, a related study by Dr. Michael Barry revealed that, of all cancer patients, 61 percent have forgiveness issues. “Chronic anxiety very predictably produces excess adrenaline and cortisol, which deplete the production of natural killer cells, which is your body’ foot soldier in the fight against cancer”, he explained.

Being bitter in your heart against another fellow means you are carrying a heavy load with so much pain in your life. You cannot feel free neither can your heart be calm; you are simply torturing yourself mentally and emotionally. It is true that sometimes, the offence committed is grievous and this makes it almost impossible for you to see enough reasons to forgive. The best is to gather up strength and let go. You might not realize the essence of a peaceful mind until you decide to forgive.

Apart from negatively affecting your life physically and mentally, holding up unforgiveness in the heart hinders answers to prayers. In our text above, God tells us to forgive those who offended us if, we desire to enjoy His mercies too.

At some point in life, all of us have offended God in one way or the other still, He did forgive us. Have you thought of the repercussion your sins would have brought upon you? Not considering your undoing, God has forgiven you so, do same to others in your prison of hatred.

 If you are reading this and you truly desire to live a fulfilled life, be mentally and emotionally free, then you need to release yourself and be free from any form of anger and hatred.


We cannot pray in love and live in hate and still think we are worshiping God. – A.W TOZER